Remember the old baseball analogy that boys used to describe how far they got (or didn’t get) sexually with a girl? (I know this is old school – now they often just “hook up.”) Anyway, you may recall they would talk about getting to “second base,” “scoring ” or hitting a “home run.” Or they’d… [Read More…]
Here’s Where to Find Ecstasy
“The gap between your goal and where you are now can hinder you,” my instructor once said during yoga class. She was encouraging us to relax into a pose rather than force it. She went on to say that there is no feedback in that gap; the only feedback is in the present. This, of… [Read More…]
Be “Like a Virgin”… Again and Again
Remember the song by Madonna, which goes, “Like a virgin, touched for the very first time…”? Well, if you want the best sex possible on a continuing basis, I highly recommend you try taking Madonna’s advice or adopt a Zen “beginner’s mind” into your sexual experience, alone or with a partner! Leave your expectations or… [Read More…]
BEWARE “THE TOUCH TRAP:” Touch More, Even When You Don’t Feel Sexy.
It’s really common for people in long-term relationships fall into a “touch trap,” especially in bed. (Singles: there’s plenty here for you too.) Do you tend to associate physical expressions of affection toward (or from) your partner with sex, partly because early in your relationship, such expressions frequently did lead to sex? If so, you and… [Read More…]
Want Better Sex? Reconnect with Your Body and Your Desire
As we age or get busy with the functional and intellectual aspects of life, we may lose touch with our sensuality and desire. To enhance your sex life, it’s important to reconnect with your body and your desire. Based on my surveys over the years and direct conversations with both men and women, a common… [Read More…]