Living The Divine Masculine cont.
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we need to focus on the parasympathetic nervous system, to start to take a different type of care of the feminine, and to support women in realizing and understanding the beauty, joy and the exquisiteness of being a woman. Most women end up totally abandoning the feminine before they even see it, during puberty. Our attitude on the planet presently is, just forget the feminine. Go
straight for the masculine. Basically, the
men are men and the women are too. And as a result, we're losing something of major importance to our surviv
Another thing I've noticed is that many men of power, including myself, have a tremendous amount of respect for "woman", as far as their spiritual development and capacity - all men of power use the way of "woman" whenever possible, because any man that understands knows that the way of the woman is a thousand times more powerful than the way of the man. So as a result, he uses the way of the woman. And when he needs to use the way of the man, he uses it with precision. And the moment it's no longer necessary, he falls back into the way of the woman. Conscious men do this willingly with great ease and finesse. Other men who cling to machismo and deny the way of the woman have no idea how much they hold back their own spiritual development via their denial.
RW: So it isn't just about supporting the feminine in the female, it is also about supporting the feminine within the male.
SN: You could say that.
RW: And for all of us who have deconstructed the way of the woman and need a refresher course, the way of the woman is what, exactly?
SN: The way of the woman is the allowing of light. Her way is transparency, receptivity, tenderness, yieldingness, availability, and she neither uses her sex nor neglects it. The way of the woman is the utilizing of pure intuition as a way of knowing. It is a knowing without knowing how you know and trusting that. Whereas the way of the man is that if he can't show on paper how he got from point A to point B, then maybe point B doesn't exist.
The woman’s way of perception is totally different from the way a man perceives. Her way of perceiving is greatly dispersed. It includes all of the senses simultaneously without focusing on any one of them in particular. So when a woman walks into a room she picks up on the smell of the room, the color of the room, the feel of the room, the taste of the room, the visual impact of the room. She takes in all of this in one fell swoop. She doesn't have to go through each one of them. She just comes in, and practically imbibes the room on all these different levels simultaneously. And if you ask her about her experience of the room, she would reply, "Oh it was exquisite, it was this, and it had that feel to it, and you could just smell this, and everything just fit together so well."
And in turn, she is also able to register disharmony and discord, which equips her to be a reliable barometer to let the community know when things are not as harmonious as they could be.
But in order for her way to be of value, the men in the community need to be able to hear the woman's perception without taking it and twisting it to make it palatable to the male mind. Because in the process of doing that, he distorts what the woman has communicated to such a degree that it renders it impotent. It diminishes the power of her communication. For men to stand differently with women in this new place they need to cultivate the ability to listen to a woman’s communication while respecting her framework of perceiving, so he understands what she’s saying, rather than attempting to run it through his mind to determine whether or not it makes sense to his style of conceptualizing.
So the work I do, the body work techniques, the processes, and the workshops have all been geared to looking at how to authentically restore the feminine energy back to the feminine and how to educate men to be adept enough to assist women in eliminating some of the pain, confusion, fear, and mishandling that almost every woman, I believe, has encountered one way or another on our planet. How can we reverse this and work with her to the point that she can return to herself and fully embody the experience of her energy?
Much of what a woman encounters in her life actually diminishes the power of her womb, or steals from it. Part of healing is restoring the womb’s ability to manifest not only children, but also things of a higher nature that you want to bring into life: more abundance, more love, greater sense of community, and so on. All these things can actually be born through the womb the same as a child, but only when the woman’s energy in her womb is innocent again. And by innocent I mean that the fear, the shame, the guilt, the rage, the anger, the lack of self worth, the jealousy, the repression -- all of these energies need to be removed from woman's womb through "conscious lovemaking" in order for the woman to return her womb to innocence. With a womb that’s in the innocent state, which I just described, you could actually drop a seed of intention into it and it would practically sprouts upon entry, this is the power of "the woman and her womb.".
I have been dedicated to finding new ways to work with men, to teach them how to make love to women as a means of returning the womb back to this innocence, how to help a woman process the pain, the fear, the shame, the guilt, and all the other emotional qualifications that she superimposed on her energy. These negating emotions need to be removed in order for the energy to be totally free, pure, creative energy again. This will allow it to manifest whatever it chooses at a higher octave.
RW: How do you work with men to cultivate this apprehension of and ability to heal the feminine? This seems like a radically transformative process, how do you approach it?
SN: There are a number of things that I communicate to men when I begin to work with them. The first thing is to encourage them to drop all fantasies. I help them to see that they need to be authentic when they are communing with a woman, and that they need to cultivate the ability in themselves to stalk and feel her energy. Meaning anytime a man needs to have a fantasy about some naked woman, a fantasy about some movie star, or a fantasy about some other woman that he would like to be with, in order to be with the current woman, he has totally separated himself from this woman. Whatever he does with this particular woman will actually be injurious to her. It will not be helpful to her as far as her restoring herself back to wholeness.
The other thing that is very important is bringing men to understand that when they are touching a woman they are touching her either as a way of promoting her well being or they are adding insult to previous injury. And the way for them to be clear that they are adding something through their touch that is helpful to her is to make sure that whenever they touch a woman with any part of themselves, whether it be their hand, their arm, or whatever, that they become a part of what they are touching and all of their consciousness is in the slightest of touches. For example when touching with the hand, the man must be conscious to use this experience as a means of making sure that he is totally piercing her with his consciousness through the hand, and being totally present in the hand. He wants to feel, sense and intuit the woman's communication back to the hand so that they know there is a resonance taking place that is moving equally between the two of them. Through these types of conscious interactions the man has the ability to start to follow the woman's internal energy and be able to register, in his consciousness, the most minute movements and shifts within that woman's body, within her field, within her consciousness, within her emotions, within all different aspects of her.
Once a man has developed this capacity, then he also has the ability when he's making love to her to know how to detect the slightest tension, a tightening inside of her womb, or whatever. He can detect whenever he touches on a place that is the least bit painful or that she's apprehensive about opening, and then through that registry, he can in turn communicate with the woman and ask her to breathe her way into these places, see what they are about, and then jointly the two of them, once she has named it, can actively transmute whatever it is in order to start to restore her womb back to innocence.
As well another significant part to notice is that men need to be aware of their need to take responsibility for the quality of energy that they bring to a woman when they come to her. Say for instance, a man has a really rough day with his boss. He's totally angry, totally pissed off. He comes home. He never says anything about it, or maybe he says something about it, but he doesn't totally own responsibility for it. He makes love to the woman. He actually downloads his negative energy into her as he's making love.
